UNDERSTANDING RELATIONSHIP STAGES

Men and women alike are carried away by passion and emotions on the issue of relationships forgetting that relationships have stages. Check out a jilted lover, he/she would probably tell you he/she was ‘used’.
I think it is important for people to actually see relationship as having stages not as an all encompassing thing. The sooner they understand why they are at a particular stage, what they need to do or feel to move to the next stage, the risk involve in jumping stages and the possibility of coming into any of the stages and going out with “no string attached”, the better.

The stages of relationship which people must try to understand before going into any relationship are:
1. Friendship stage
2. Lovers stage
3. Fiancé stage
4. Married stage

FRIENDSHIP STAGE: - this is a stage where parties involve just like each other. They want to do things together, share ideas ordinarily and form a force against externalities.

LOVERS STAGE: - this is a higher stage from the friendship stage, where parties involve tends to want to share affections, it’s more than just liking each other at this stage. People are ready to share intimate things with each other at this stage.

FIANCE STAGE: - this is a stage where one could not do without seeing the other. At this stage, no secrets should be left unshared. Then people begin to think about making family together.

MARRIED STAGE: - this stage is the highest stage, parties in such relationship are already one family. Every other aspect of a family could then be considered, like making babies, deep concern for extended families e.t.c.
The sooner the people understand these stages the better and the fact that its possible to just enter into anyone of the stages and come out of it at will but a stronger relationship is well built if it goes through all the first 3 stages and climax at the last stage (married stage).

So, when you are just friends and you expect he/she to take it to the next level (lovers stage) but it did not work out, get a grip of yourself and move on .When you are both in the fiancé stage but he/she could not marry you, move ahead, it’s never the end of the world, it’s not necessary for one to move from one stage to the other. Understanding these relationship stages and what could go wrong within them will make people to know what to expect at any of the stages and these will make them to understand that it’s not a do or die thing, they could always start agin.

Secret Dating Tips

The web based dating service industry is constantly growing in number of new sites available and in the services they provide. With so many to pick from, it may be a daunting task to find the one that is right for you. To that end, we would like to offer some general tips to help you get started.

First, the most important thing about selecting an internet dating site is the type of services they offer. The general categories are: dating, committed relationship, intimate encounters, alternative lifestyle, and etc. Their home page usually gives a good indication of what services they offer. One way to learn more about them is to take advantage of the site tour (if available) or just log in as a guest user. So, depending on what type of service you are looking for, it should be relatively easy to weed out what you are not looking for.

Next, the site must be user friendly and have an abundance of personal ad listing for your area. The best way to determine this is to log in as a guest user. Try their search tool to find potential matches in your area. If the query returns pages of results, try the advanced search feature to narrow down the result. If you see an ad that interests you, click on it for more details. If the site is too cumbersome to use or your area is not very well represented, then you may want to move on to another service provider.

Assuming you've tried some of the suggestions outlined above, you now probably have a few dating sites in mind that you would like to try. As a general rule, we suggest for you to start by posting your profile on your favorite 3 sites. Since it's usually free to post a profile, it can only increase your chances of meeting someone. Give some thought on how to describe yourself. It needs to be somewhere between interesting and truthful. The idea is to peek the other person's interest and curiosity to the point that they want to initiate contact. If possible, have a friend (preferably of the opposite sex) proof read it. Also try to include a digital photo of yourself as part of your profile. You will definitely get more responses with a photo than without.

Lastly, some of us may be lucky enough to meet lots of great people over the internet just by posting a free profile. But for the rest of us, we may need to take it a step further with email or instant messaging. Email is a great way for you to introduce yourself. Instant messaging is a great feature once communication is established because it allows you to flirt and/or carry on a long interactive conversation. Internet dating can be a fun and rewarding. Take that next step and find out what internet dating has to offer!